No I don't wanna grow up !!

Writing this I felt I am speaking heart out of many people. There are certain things in life in which we do not have any ascendancy or do we have the dominance?
We can allow ourselves to like or dislike someone do we have the alternative...

WHAT WE CHERISH
It is now when I realised that my school days were heavenly and college days marvelous. It has always been exciting stepping into this Big world of IT.
Things change and yes it must be..Gone were those days,now there are no more kneel down,situps,standing on bench while holding your ears, scolding or standing outside the class.No more parent-teacher meetings,fear of getting our report card signed by Parents.No more barbiee lunch boxes and bags.No more Bunk,night study before the exam,texting your crush, Assignments, external vivas and many more things ..they don't exist now.

WHAT WE ARE FACING
The things that dwell are competition,work duress ,financial ebb and flows, distressing life ,family nagging,frustration and we just thrive for more and more .
One needs to be flexible ,agreed . You should be able to do things that you haven't done in past :'Technically'-agreed.Our nature itself demands survival of the fittest.But how to do things that We have never learned,something for us which we have never attempted, which does not have any language,any IDE(to be technical),any course,any online reference materials,not found in the books at least for what we have read so far,those books doesn't contain such syllabus.Where to find it ,Does truth and honesty which were taught throughout our childhood was limited to that period of time.Why don't we follow it now..someone tell me how to learn Manipulation,gain sympathy, to overshow the work which we have not even attempted,roam around to show we work,or daily brag about the small things that we have done,why our feats are not visible just because we do not broadcast them .We don't enjoin others to see our work.Are we too naive or too stupid to be honest and tell truth.We are fighting for our identity,that seems lost.Feeling obliterated..can't pretend..can't manipulate..can't disport.Cannot publically parade ourselves for others to like us.
WHAT WE WANT FROM LIFE
Don't believe the rumors beacause it is from them who can't compete with us.Don't judge us on the basis of what others say ,test us then give the verdict.
Don't prejudice,please do not have a prior opinion about us if you have not worked with us.Trust us with things.
We can't swank especially for the things we do not have.Please see for yourself who actually does the work and the one who just gloats over others.
My attitudes depends on how you treat me ..If I am being rude then you definitely need to revise our old conversation.
I can't be sorry for the things I have not done wrong.I am not stubborn but I am in a zero tolerance zone.

WHAT I HAVE LEARNED SO FAR
Some people are great in manipulating,their skillset : Lie,cheat,be insecure and some how manage to make it all seems your fault.
The choices does not belongs to fate it belongs to you
First ,think...second ,Believe...third,Dream..fourth,Be Confident and finally DARE.
Being a child, i always wanted to grow up.. Do we grow up for this ??? Now i understood why it takes courage to grow up !!!
From within every that adult who is battling daily.

Sui Generis

I am flawed and I am human. People are afraid to be judged and thus judge one another. We have set certain benchmarks , a certain agenda and the "freaky " who doesn't approve of it is put undertrial.
Talking about certain agendas that we have,not entirely,but have set certain parameters like "english" has been a quotient to judge somebody's intelligence.In all that what we forget is people are sui generis.

Now what we have to think about is should we stick to traditional;tried and tested ideas and opinions ,and accept what others think is right. Have you ever pretended to be what you are not or just never thought of doing something because you fear that you would never be accepted by the mainstream. It’s your broken idea of fairness.

There has always been evolutions of doctrines and there have been many ideologies.Lets talk about one 'Feminism'.
"It is a social movement which argues that legal and social restrictions on women must be removed in order to bring about equality of sexes in all aspects of public and private life" but it is a movement powered by people and people are inherently flawed. Feminism lately has suffered a certain guilt because of the woman who advocate feminism as a part of their personal brand.When these figure heads say what we want to hear we idolise them and when not, we knock them right off.

But yes things are changing, if we talk about ancient literature there have been very less by women and i guess none by women of color (Hope I am wrong) and now we have women who have abutted space.

And yes there have been men supporting feminism.Some will say men are privileged but we need to get to a place where we discuss privillege by way of observation and acknowledgement rather than accusation.
There is no need to blame or change one another what simply needs to be done is understand the differences.

"**A women is who loves pink and at the same time likes to get freaky;
who plays dumb with repairmen as its easier to let them feel macho.
who can fly high still want someone to catch her when she falls.
who often cries for silly things and stands firm for her decision.
who can conquer the world but loose herself for her loved ones.
who when can't find someone to follow,leads the world by example**.

**A man who pre-eminently search the best gift for her girl.
who plays macho just to make her girl feel secure.
who gazes at her girl with proud when she flies and ready to catch her when she falls.
who often hides his tears and emotions just to follow the commitment.
who gets amazed with her girl conquering the world and surrender himself to her.
who becomes an example and role model for her daughter to look for the qualities in man**.

PS : Sui generis is a latin phrase which means "of its own kind"

Inspired by Roxane Gay.
#BothHuman #NatureMadeThemDifferent #TheyareOneOftheirKind #NotToBeCompared #RespectTheDifference

“Every man I meet wants to protect me. I can't figure out what from.” --Mae West
“A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.”--Gloria Steinem

#theyareoneoftheirkind #respectthedifference

Extremity!!

Writing this while playing ‘counting stars’ on the loop(**…m young but not that bold..). Once there was a King who poisoned the common well with some chants I believe ,driving all the citizen insane. Only the royal family who didn’t use the well off course, were in full sanity . Since the entire progeny has gone crazy ,all the wise decision made by the King was considered sordid. (**feels something so wrong doing the right thing) Outraged people decided to kill the king as the king in “their opinion” was out of the way ,not following the tradition ,not making sound decisions and they no longer require such an insane king.

Following the life threatening news King himself drank the water from the well and became one among them, settling with the majority . Now all the decisions made by him were considered sagacious.

Now this should have solved the problem. But now the adjoining cities found the people as well as the king crazy and decided to kill the entire brood.

No matter what, you cannot make everyone happy and you are not supposed to. People were happy before weren’t they? They already obeyed king in every manner whether willingly or by law. But only for king who thought of making people more sincere and loyal to him or may be some hidden profits ,he did this to his subjects. May be his insecurities as a king to become affluent and omnipotent. 

Sometimes we ourselves create situation and become a victim and some times we are just victims already . Life is so unfair …no life isn’t, we aren’t fair to life and yes sometimes we fall into life’s ploy.

 What will you do, if you are about to die in next five days ? Will you continue your job..the same regimen sitting all day in front of a stupid box (comp screen) in the last five days of your life ?(**take that money watch it burn) I think you won’t .May be you’ll do whatever you think is undone. May be expressing your love to someone ,going on a wild voyage or peace at Himalyas, Eat every cuisine possible, Make love to the one you always wanted(*T&C applied), Tell people on their face that u hate them,May be you don’t feel like keeping things you are so desperate to have now, would buy a guitar or whatever you always dream of..or may be go to that dance class you always wanted to join…Get that short haircut you always desired (girls) or keep that long beard along (boys).. In short you will explore your limits without the fear of judgment and declared ‘Insane’ by people. Now you see what’s the trap of life ? You are not leading your life but you are following others to have a better future for yourself and you continue doing it until your last breath. You don’t give your time and attention to life and thus it is so unfair to you (**no more counting dollars will be counting stars )

We all have our limits, but  who predestined our limits ? No matter what you do , you are always crazy for some one else.The ‘Chaar log’ jury members  will always be judging you. Albert Einstein once said “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result”. I don’t know if he actually said it, for me SRK did in ‘Dear Zindagi’. (**Sink in the river the lessons I learned)

Talking about limits are like people gather together, talk and set their own walls, they have fun cause they are supposed to have fun ,study use less subjects,they do things because they are used to doing them(*I don’t think the world is sold,I am just doing what we are told) ..and in the end watch news channels as a confirmation of their happiness in the world full of problems and injustices. for example you didn’t die because of standing in long atm queue while others did and thus you have a perfect life.

No body wants a change ,no body wants to change and yes nobody wants to appreciate a person bringing change .We are afraid of exploring our limits (..*seek out and you shall find).Try something considered ‘abnormal’. Make the extremity of your pain and anguish so great that you don't only sigh but Roar.... !!!! Transform yourself, Transform the world or at least your perception...Break Bad...

“Be like a fountain that overflows, not a cistern that merely contains”. After all we are crazy and crazy people do crazy things ;)
 (*… Everything that kills me makes me feel alive)


Lately, I have been ,I have been losing sleep,

Dreaming about the things that we could be …..

Baby I have been ,I have been praying hard ,

Said no more counting dollars, will be counting stars….

Yeah we’ll be counting stars.

Rachita